Several years ago, I met the love of my life. In our time together, we’ve supported each other through moving to a new state, changing jobs and starting businesses of our own, health challenges, and so much more. We even weathered the first 18 months of the pandemic in a 250 square foot tiny house and amazingly, we still like each other – a lot!
But if you had shown me this future 10 or 15 years ago, I’m not sure I would have believed you.
Why? Because, like about 40% of the population, I didn’t have the type of safe, consistent attunement as a child that is needed to develop a secure attachment style– the inner wiring that helps us make wise relationship choices and feel safe in partnership. For me, that meant living with anxious attachment: a constant background hum of unworthiness and fear of abandonment. It was demoralizing and painful, and I longed to find my way out of it.
We all want love, connection, and a sense of belonging. This is our birthright as people. But for so many of us (40% of people! You are so not alone in this!), there are obstacles that get in the way. Attachment wounds, trauma, and harmful patterns passed down through our family system all too often make attaining the kind of love we want feel almost impossible.
To heal my attachment wounds, I spent years in my twenties and thirties working with lovely therapists, sitting intensive meditation retreats, and studying Buddhism, psychology, and trauma. It all helped, but I was still stuck repeating old patterns even though cognitively, I knew better.
I needed something that could reach beyond my rational mind and into my body, spirit, and heart, in order to fully break the cycle. Depth Hypnosis is what I found.
By doing my own Depth Hypnosis work and supporting many clients with attachment trauma, I’ve seen first hand how helpful this modality can be. If you’re struggling in your relationships and looking for relief, here are just a few of the ways that working with Depth Hypnosis can help you heal your attachment wounds:
Depth Hypnosis connects you with your own power. If you’ve experienced childhood trauma, relationship abuse, or other forms of trauma like racism or sexism, it’s likely that you’ve had more than your fair share of feeling powerless, unworthy, or misunderstood. You might have a really hard time trusting yourself or your perception of reality. In our work together, your first step will be to connect with a guide using a gentle guided meditation that will bring you into a lightly altered state of consciousness. Your guide is a compassionate, wise aspect of yourself that can support you deeply and help you connect to your own truth. Over time, you will learn to tap into the wisdom, capacity, and support that has always been inside of you.
Your guides can offer unconditional care and secure bonding. For me, this was truly where the magic happened. The more I worked with my guides through Depth Hypnosis and the shamanic journey, the more supported and safe I felt. As I practiced, I learned to trust my guides and their teachings at a very deep level. It was this bond that gave me my first real taste of what being fully loved, supported, and understood could feel like. Whether I was scared, heartbroken, or joyful, my guides were there to support me. Over time, this bond helped me form a template of what trusting and being truly vulnerable with another could feel like.
From my work with clients, I feel even more certain: the bonds we form with our guides in Depth Hypnosis can be some of the most transformative relationships out there.
From an attachment standpoint, this is tremendous news: in a steady relationship with a securely attached person, most insecure attachment can heal over time. Your relationship with a guide is a way that you can explore trust and vulnerability even when you haven’t met that securely attached someone yet in ‘real life.’ Over time, this can help your nervous system form new responses and downshift many of your trauma or attachment triggers.
You’ll learn to access different parts of your brain for deeper healing. Unsurprisingly, deep contemplative work in an altered state has a measurable impact on the brain! When we experience new ways of perceiving the world, we build the capacity to break old patterns and create our lives anew. As you work with Depth Hypnosis, you will move beyond the conscious mind to form new neural pathways and a new way of relating to yourself and the world. This happens when we discover our own power and strength, when we connect with trusted guides, and when we tap into non-ordinary aspects of consciousness. In these ways, the path towards a more secure attachment becomes clear.
When I began to explore Depth Hypnosis and shamanic journey work, I had no idea that it would change my life, my career, and my relationships in the most extraordinary ways. As I pursued this work over time, I changed and my reality changed with me. Sometimes these changes happened gradually and gently, sometimes in a sudden burst of newfound freedom. Today, I’m honored to offer my clients the very tools that changed my life as a Depth Hypnosis Practitioner and Applied Shamanic Counselor. I welcome you to join me in this powerful work!